The YouTube user-space for ‘Apologetics’ is one to keep an eye on, and not for any particularly positive reasons. Be prepared for a lot of homophobic hate spewing from that corner of the web.
Here’s how you can tell:
- Their featured video shows music and lyrics from ‘Awake and Alive’ by Christian rock group Skillet – not a song praising Jesus or reaching out to spread God’s love, but a battle cry that begins with the lyrics “I’m at war with the world and they / Try to pull me into the dark”.
- Their ‘About’ listing actually just quotes the First Amendment on freedom of speech and freedom of religion.
- The wallpaper on their page is a picture of a man and a woman cutting a wedding cake.
- The site features only three video uploads: one is a bride doing a drum solo from 2011, one is a pretty lame attempt at rapping about why homosexuality is wrong, and one is the very long and toxic ‘Fifty Examples of How Same-Sex Marriage Affects Society’ video that I’ve embedded below.
On browsing the site, it seems to belong to the drummer in the wedding video, who is also the bride in the wallpaper pictures. It’s not a site with an agenda, necessarily; it’s somebody’s personal YouTube channel. So why is there so much hate? She obviously got to marry who she loved. So why is she so dead-set against the same privilege for gay people?
I didn’t bother linking to the rap video, because it’s really just extremely pathetic and embarrassing for the poor girl in it – and even worse, she looks young enough that she might grow up to be ashamed of what she once believed about the gays, which is a double whammy for her: embarrassing beliefs in an embarrassing attempt at rap.
But this other video kind of caught my interest because of the way it approaches its arguments, so I figured I might as well share my thoughts.
Obvious trigger warning for homophobia, transphobia. A practical warning, too: it’s nearly half an hour long. Couldn’t sit through even a quarter of that – and it wasn’t necessary to pick up the basic thread of the argument. Even better, the speaker has added a helpful list of his fifty reasons in the ‘about’ box on YouTube, so you don’t have to sit through the whole thing if you don’t want.
The takeaway message from this video is this: being LGBTQ is selfish. It fails to take other people’s feelings into consideration. If you were a really considerate person, you would make their feelings paramount.
The thing is, if you’re the hypothetical gay audience this video seems to be addressing somewhat obliquely, other people’s stake in this isn’t equal to yours. This guy is asking you to worry about whether your neighbour is miffed at having to remember a new name for you, or a business is leery of having to serve you, or if strangers on the street are weirded out having ambiguously-gendered people using the same public facilities. And he’s asking you to make that more important than your very being. He’s asking you to suppress a part of who you are so people like him are more comfortable.
And he’s putting the onus on LGBTQ people to comfort the homophobes, when actually it’s their responsibility to adjust to a more tolerant society. It’s their job to educate themselves out of bigoted falsehoods like”gays are so oversexed, your homosexual colleagues will jump on you and rape you if you bend down to look in a file drawer” or “dresses and skirts are so inherently feminine, any male who wears them is an automatic freakshow”. This guy wants to perpetuate the belief that everyone needs to conform for the comfort of the straight people.
Actually, if the straight people want to be comfortable, they need to step outside their comfort zone. It’s a paradox, but there you have it. If you want to feel comfortable in a society where people aren’t like you, the solution isn’t to try to make them like you. They aren’t going to accept it, and they shouldn’t have to. The solution is to reach out and learn that, though they are different, they aren’t doing you any harm. They’re just ordinary people.
The really sad thing about the video is it takes as a fundamental premise that being gay is a choice, and it tries to talk viewers out of homosexuality. But since being gay is generally part of who you are – just as, for me, it’s part of who I am that I like men – it just ends up spewing a lot of hate.
Update: I ended up listening to the ‘Fifty Examples’ video all the way through. It turns out that the speaker in the video calls himself RepresentingTruth, and Apologetics is his daughter. I hope she learns to think for herself one day and rejects his horrific, prejudiced example. It’s a very unpleasant video; his voice is often sarcastic, harsh, and hate-filled. If you’re curious but you’d like to bypass all that hate, I ended up posting a transcript on The Popeable Sock Puppet.